🕒 17 min read
✍ By Victoria Rose
📅 April 16, 2025
A foundational truth behind Pleasure Alchemy + the Awakened Pleasure Coaching Container
Discover how Tantra offers a path to sacred sexuality and healing, weaving together spirituality and embodiment while honoring both ancient wisdom and modern understanding.
Table of Contents:
- What Is Tantra?
- The Dance of Duality: Shiva and Shakti
- Tantra and Sacred Sexuality
- Integrating Tantra Into My Work
- Pleasure Alchemy and Awakened Pleasure Coaching
- A Final Invitation
In a world that often compartmentalizes our experiences—labeling some as spiritual and others as shameful—Tantra emerges as a powerful reminder that nothing is separate from the sacred.
It’s not just a practice… it’s a way of being.
And for me, it’s been one of the most healing and liberating paths I’ve ever walked — especially when it comes to reclaiming my body, my sensuality, and my connection to Spirit.
💫 What Is Tantra?
Tantra is an ancient spiritual tradition that originated in India around the 6th century CE. The word “Tantra” is derived from the Sanskrit root “Tan”, which means to expand or to weave. In essence, Tantra is a path of expansion through integration—weaving together all aspects of life (the pleasurable, the painful, the mundane, and the mystical) into our spiritual evolution.
It’s not about bypassing or rising above the body.
It’s about descending into it. Rooting into presence. Feeling everything. Honoring what is real.
Unlike many religious traditions that ask us to deny or transcend our human experience, Tantra invites us to embrace it fully. It teaches us that the body is not a barrier to enlightenment — it is the gateway.
☯️ The Dance of Duality: Shiva and Shakti
At the heart of Tantric philosophy is a reverence for duality — not as opposition, but as divine dance. The sacred masculine (Shiva) represents pure awareness and consciousness, while the sacred feminine (Shakti) is energy, movement, life force. One provides stillness and direction; the other brings flow and creation.
Their union is the source of all life — not just biologically, but spiritually.
Together, they show us what it means to be whole.
As a proclaimed follower of the teachings of Jesus, I see this same truth echoed in his life. While the church has often portrayed Jesus through a masculine lens of power and sacrifice, I see him also embodying the feminine qualities of compassion, intuition, tenderness, and presence. When he touched the outcast, wept with the grieving, and washed his disciples’ feet, he was modeling sacred duality — masculine consciousness guided by feminine love.
To me, that is deeply Tantric.
And I believe Jesus was teaching us the same truth: that we are here to embody love, fully and unapologetically — not to deny the body, but to honor it as sacred.
Throughout his life, Jesus consistently broke cultural and religious taboos around the body, intimacy, and connection. He touched those considered “unclean.” He shared meals with sex workers and sinners. He didn’t shy away from closeness, from tears, from the sensuality of being human. In fact, many of his most profound moments were deeply embodied acts of presence and love.
When he washed his disciples’ feet, it wasn’t just an act of humility — it was a sensual, grounding, sacred moment of service and physical connection. When the woman anointed him with oil and wiped his feet with her hair, he didn’t pull away. He received. Fully. Openly. And then defended her against judgment, saying she had done a beautiful thing.
Jesus was never afraid of intimacy.
He was never afraid of the body.
He didn’t preach shame — he preached liberation through love.
Even the language of his teachings — “This is my body, given for you” — reminds us that the body is not something to escape from, but something to offer with intention and devotion.
When we reduce spirituality to something that exists only “above” or outside of us, we miss the very miracle of incarnation. Jesus came in a body. He laughed. He cried. He bled. He felt. And he showed us — not through dogma, but through embodiment — that we are closest to God/dess not when we reject the human experience, but when we meet it with love.
So yes, I believe that Tantra and the teachings of Jesus are not at odds.
They are, in many ways, deeply aligned.
Both invite us to return to presence.
To choose love over fear.
To bring holiness into the here and now — into our breath, our touch, our pleasure, our relationships.
And that’s what sacred sexuality is about. Not separation, but union. Not shame, but reverence. Not denial, but devotion.
🔥 Tantra and Sacred Sexuality
One of the most misunderstood aspects of Tantra is its relationship to sexuality.
I was raised in the church.
And like many of us, I was taught — either directly or subtly — that sexuality was only acceptable within marriage, and only for procreation. Outside of that, it was considered sinful, dirty, or dangerous.
What that left me with was confusion. Shame. Disconnection.
Even within marriage, I found myself struggling to access pleasure, curiosity, or intimacy. I thought something was wrong with me.
It wasn’t until I began studying sacred sexuality and the Tantric path that I realized the truth: My body wasn’t broken — my conditioning was.
Sacred sexuality is not about performance or orgasm.
It’s about reverence. It’s about presence.
It’s about exploring your body — or your partner’s body — with love, curiosity, and zero pressure.
I remember the day I ran up to my ex-husband and said,
“Did you know intimacy is about discovering what feels good without needing to climax? That it’s about connection, not performance?”
We had been married for four years… and we had never shared that kind of exploration. That moment hit me hard. If we had known that sooner — if we had been taught the truth about intimacy — maybe things would have been different.
This is one of the deepest reasons why I now teach sacred sexuality.
Because I want others to have the chance to heal, to reconnect, and to experience love that is whole, embodied, and true.
💗 Integrating Tantra Into My Work
In my Pleasure Alchemy and Awakened Pleasure Coaching Container, I blend Tantric principles, embodiment practices, and nervous system attunement to help you:
- Reclaim your sensuality as a source of power and healing
- Explore sacred sexuality without shame
- Harmonize your inner masculine and feminine
- Build true intimacy with yourself and others
- Rewire your relationship with your body, desire, and pleasure
This work isn’t just about sex.
It’s about self-love. Sovereignty. And remembering that you are not separate from the divine — you are an expression of it.
🌿 A Final Invitation
Tantra is not just a path for the spiritually elite or sexually adventurous.
It is a path for anyone who longs to feel more alive, more connected, more whole.
Whether you’re healing from purity culture, rediscovering yourself after heartbreak, or simply craving deeper intimacy — this path has space for you.
You don’t need to be perfect.
You just need to be willing.
To soften. To listen. To feel.
To remember that your pleasure is sacred. Your body is sacred. You are sacred.
With reverence and fire,
Victoria Rose
If this post stirred something within you — a longing to reconnect with your body, your desires, or the sacredness of your sensuality — then I invite you to keep going.
The path of Tantra is rich and layered, and understanding sacred sexuality is just one part of the journey. In my next post, What Is Intimacy, Really?, we’ll explore the heart of true connection — not just with others, but with yourself.
It’s an invitation to go deeper, soften further, and begin building relationships rooted in presence, vulnerability, and truth. I’ll meet you there. 💗
