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✍ By Victoria Rose
📅 April 16, 2025​
Beyond Touch, Into Truth
Journey beyond surface-level connections to discover what true intimacy really means – a vulnerable exploration of being fully seen, known, and accepted in relationships.
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Table of Contents:
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- A Definition That Changed Everything
- My Story: The Cost of Misunderstood Intimacy
- Why This Work Matters to Me
- So What Is Intimacy?
- True intimacy is…
- Intimacy Beyond the Bedroom
- Why We Avoid Intimacy
- Final Thoughts
When most people hear the word intimacy, they think of physical closeness. Sex. Skin. Maybe cuddling. Maybe a deep, emotional moment that makes you feel seen.
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But intimacy is more than that.
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And truthfully? Most of us were never taught what it really means.
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We were taught to perform.
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To give.
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To be desirable — but not vulnerable.
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To chase connection while silently fearing the truth of being fully known.
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But the truth is…
✨ Intimacy is not just about sex — it’s about being seen.
It’s about letting someone into your inner world, and being brave enough to enter theirs.
đź’« A Definition That Changed Everything
One of the most powerful definitions of intimacy I’ve ever received came from my coach at the time, Emily Lewis:
“Intimacy is exploring your body or your partner’s body together to find what feels good — without the expectation of orgasm.”
Let that land.
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Because for me, it cracked something open.
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Not just because of what it meant about sexuality… but because of what it revealed about my marriage.
đź’” My Story: The Cost of Misunderstood Intimacy
I still remember running up to my husband at the time, filled with hope, and saying:
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“Did you know this? Did you know that intimacy is about exploration, not performance? That it’s not just about sex or climax — it’s about presence, curiosity, and connection?”
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We had been married for four years.
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And somehow… we had never explored each other in that way.
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We had never created space for slow, shame-free, pressure-free discovery.
That realization hit me like a wave.
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And it broke my heart.
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Because if we had understood this sooner — if we had been taught how to nurture intimacy instead of just function in partnership — there might have been a chance for us to grow together.
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But the truth is, the disconnect had already taken root.
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The damage was done.
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And eventually, our marriage ended — not because of a lack of love, but because of a lack of intimacy.
🌿 Why This Work Matters to Me
That moment planted a seed in me — one that’s still growing today.
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It’s why I do this work.
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It’s why I’m so passionate about helping people create relationships that are healthy, balanced, and thriving — not just on the surface, but deep in the soul.
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Because I don’t want anyone else to miss out on love — real love — simply because they weren’t taught how to connect.
🌹 So What Is Intimacy?
Let’s break it down:
True intimacy is…
- Vulnerability that feels safe and mutual
- Deep presence — being with someone, not just next to them
- Exploring without an agenda
- Emotional transparency
- Co-creating safety in both communication and physical touch
- Letting yourself be known — and being curious about knowing someone else
It’s the quiet moments where no one is trying to fix or perform.
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It’s the soft “I see you” that says: You’re safe here. I’m with you.
🌕 Intimacy Beyond the Bedroom
Yes, sacred sexuality can be intimate.
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But intimacy is so much more than that.
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It shows up when:
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- You make eye contact and breathe together
- You ask your partner what they’re afraid to say
- You let someone hold you when you feel messy or unsure
- You share the things you thought you had to keep hidden
- You take off your emotional armor — slowly, bravely, together
This is the kind of intimacy that holds relationships through the hard seasons.
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This is what creates true connection.
đź’Ą Why We Avoid Intimacy
Because intimacy requires being seen.
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And for many of us, being seen hasn’t always felt safe.
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We fear rejection.
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We fear judgment.
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We fear that if someone really knew us — our desires, our shadows, our softness — they’d walk away.
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So we perform.
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We protect.
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We stay on the surface and call it love, when really… it’s survival.
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But it doesn’t have to stay that way.
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We can learn new ways of relating.
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We can reclaim intimacy as something sacred and healing.
🌸 Final Thoughts
Intimacy isn’t something you “achieve.”
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It’s something you practice — slowly, honestly, with care.
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It starts with you.
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With being willing to see yourself.
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With learning to be present with your own body, your own feelings, your own truth.
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Because the more intimate you are with yourself, the more intimacy you can co-create with others — without losing who you are in the process.
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And beautiful soul… that’s where the magic begins.
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That’s where true connection is born.
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That’s where love becomes a sanctuary, not just a situation.
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With open arms and a soft heart,
Victoria Rose
If this exploration of intimacy stirred something in you — a longing to be seen, a curiosity to go deeper — then you’re already on the path. And there’s more waiting. In my next post, “What Is Sacred Sexuality?”, we move beyond the foundations of connection and into the realm of sensual, soul-deep union. It’s not just about sex — it’s about reclaiming your body, your pleasure, and your presence as sacred. If you’re ready to meet yourself (and your desires) in a whole new way, I’ll meet you there. đź’« #AwakenedAuthenticity
